It's the harsh reality facing every military family. Sometimes their loved ones serving our country do not come home.
One valley woman who lost her son in the Iraq war is doing what she can to help others in her same situation.
Debbie Lee lost her son Marc, a Navy Seal, back in 2006 when he was killed in Iraq. Instead of letting the loss send her into a deep depression, she set out on a mission to honor her son's legacy.
She bought a home and turned it into a peaceful retreat for the families of fallen service members.
This home in Surprise is no ordinary tract home. It's "Heroes Hope Home," a place for the families of fallen military members.
It was started four years ago by Debbie Lee, whose son Marc was the first Navy Seal killed in Iraq in August of 2006.
"It has been a house full of laughter, full of fun, a bonding time, just and amazing, amazing experience," says Lee.
This week two families from Texas are staying here. Leticia Aceves and her four children, and Melissa Evinger and her three children.
Melissa's husband, Bear, a marine, died in 2011 of injuries suffered after he was hit by a drunk driver while stationed in Hawaii.
Leticia's husband, Army Staff Seargeant Omar Aceves, was killed in an IED attack in Afghanistan two years ago.
"It's like a little break. You know, we don't have to keep up with everything like we normally do at home, so the kids are just swimming and having fun with each other," says Leticia.
"So we just really relax here, let the children play in the pool, and we get to sit back and relax a little. It's nice," says Melissa.
The two families road-tripped out here in an RV on their way to the Grand Canyon.
All seven children love the chance to spend their days in the pool just being kids.
"It is important, because a lot of times when it's in the quiet of the house or when schools going on, it's the reality of it. And here's not a reality. It's just a fun, relaxing time."
Debbie tries to provide the Gold Star families with everything they need during their stay -- even some pampering with manicures and massages for the widows.
She would eventually like to pay for all the transportation costs for those who can't afford the trip.